by yoursl | Aug 28, 2014 | Women's Sexual Health |
I recently read a blog article that incorrectly identified the location of an important part of female genitalia. An anatomy lesson is in order to correct this error before I lose more sleep over it. The vulva, which includes the labia and clitoris, is on the outside of a woman’s body. The vagina is the muscular canal that extends from the vulva to the cervix, which is at the opening of the uterus. This means the vagina is inside the female body, which is what the other blogger got wrong. Now that the mystery of where the vagina is located has been solved, I am going to write this blog about vagina-related topics. I am a huge fan of Bob and Tom and listen to their radio show during my morning commute. A few weeks ago, they mentioned vaginal steaming, but never discussed it in detail. Never having heard of vaginal steaming, I was intrigued and researched it. Vaginal steaming is a cleanse where a woman sits naked on a specially-designed chair under which a humidifier emits herb-infused steam for 30 to 45 minutes. Traditionally, herbs used in the process include mugwort for its anti-fungal properties and wormwood for its anti-viral properties, but other herbs can be used as well. Vaginal steaming has been used for centuries in Eastern medicine as a remedy to ease menstrual cramps and boost fertility and is used by women in some parts of South America. In the United States, vaginal steaming services are available at select spas. Do-it-yourself kits are available for purchase from online retailers. As a precaution, a woman who is...
by yoursl | Aug 21, 2014 | Bedroom Fun, Sex Toys, Sexual Exploration |
Many years ago, I worked with an intern who openly shared information about her private life. She once told me that she was a virgin and that she allowed and encouraged her sex partners to insert various sex toys into her vagina. This seemed contradictory to me at the time she shared this with me. Now that I am halfway through an online course from Indiana University about sexual health education, the intern makes sense. By textbook definition, she maintained her virginity as long as there was no actual penile penetration. She was expressing her sexuality and sensuality through the use of sex toy play as opposed to penile-vaginal intercourse. She was still having sex, but in a creative way. Sex toy play can be exciting and fun as well as beneficial and even therapeutic for some users. For sex partners who are stuck in a sex routine, introducing a sex toy can add a level of excitement and adventure to their sexual activities. The introduction of the sex toy alone can help open the channels of communication for some partners. For example, a partner with reservations about having a sex toy used on his or her body or about using a sex toy on someone else needs to communicate any fears or concerns to his or her partner before using the toy. Having an open line of non-judgmental communication can increase intimacy for those partners. As one partner is using a sex toy on the other, the partner receiving the attention needs to tell the partner what feels good and where something feels good. This can be extremely...
by yoursl | Aug 14, 2014 | Erotic Literature |
I grew up enjoying frequent visits to the library. I was educated by some of the best high school teachers and college professors available to me. Proper grammar, correct punctuation and spelling, and strong word choice were lessons that were taught to me from an early age. I cannot remember a time when I did not own a dictionary and a thesaurus, in hardback copies no less. I learned to read when I was a toddler and was reading at an advanced level by the time I entered public school. I had my own subscription to National Geographic when I just five-years-old. I exhausted the available supply of books in the elementary library by the fourth grade. The nearest bookstores were more than 50 miles away from my childhood home. My mother joined a book-of-the-month club to help keep me in reading material. When I was 15-years-old and on winter break from school, I begged my mom to order a book by Diana Gabaldon called Outlander. I wanted to read this book because it took place in Scotland, which was one of many dream travel locations inspired by an issue of National Geographic a decade prior. My mom ordered the book, which contained explicit language and erotic scenes as well as strong words. I had to stop reading every few pages to use the dictionary. I devoured all 627 pages in less than three days. Outlander was my first voyage into historic romance and erotic literature. I fell in love with how beautifully the book is written and how intellectual it is. From Outlander, I branched out into tawdry...
by yoursl | Aug 7, 2014 | Sexual Discussion |
I was going to wait to write this blog until Your Sexy Librarian was out of its infancy, but I keep having real-life conversations about this hush-hush topic. I can no longer keep quiet about this highly important yet infrequently discussed topic that should command the attention of every adult in this country. We, as American adults, can help end domestic violence. This is the point where the majority of people usually tune me out, often in a fashion similar to a small child covering his eyes and saying, “If I cannot see you, you cannot see me.” Please keep reading to better understand domestic violence, which is more than just violence, and to know there are domestic violence victims who are happy, healed and fully functioning in our society today. Picture yourself in a bathroom that is five feet wide and only as long as the bathtub. On the wall opposite the flimsy, fiberboard door is a small window, one foot wide and 10 inches tall. The flimsy door leads into a poorly lit, narrow hallway just big enough for one medium-sized adult. How do you feel? Now picture a person twice your size on the other side of the closed, flimsy door. This person is so angry that saliva and spittle flies from his mouth as he screams and yells at you, “You are fucking worthless! You are so fucking worthless, you bitch! FUCKING WORTHLESS!” Now, how do you feel? Picture yourself trapped in that little bathroom with limited options. Neither your shoulders nor your butt will fit out that tiny window, so that...
