by yoursl | Dec 4, 2014 | Bedroom Fun, Dating/Relationships, Just For Fun, Sexual Discussion |
A collage featuring several of the gift ideas in the blog below. The winter holidays are fast approaching. If you need gift ideas with jingle and va va voom, Your Sexy Librarian recommends the following items be stowed under some mistletoe. PrimO Tux Vibe Ring is a premium silicone penis ring from The Screaming O. With features such as 3 vibration speeds and a pulse setting, this little dynamo is sure to please. The ring is latex- and phthalate-free, reusable, waterproof and wireless. The battery has 45-minute life and can be easily replaced. The retail price is between $19.95 and $24.95. Purchase online at The Screaming O or at Lover’s Lane. Cards Against Humanity™ is “a party game for horrible people” and makes a great gift for those with a sense of humor. Warning: the uber-conservative and the easily offended may not enjoy playing this game. The card deck is separated into black question cards and white answer cards. Each player takes turns pulling a question card from the deck. The other players then place an answer card face-down on the table. The player with the question card reads aloud each answer card, and this is where the fun begins. In case you have never played Cards Against Humanity™, this game drips with as much sexual innuendo as you can tolerate, has been known to cause players to laugh non-stop for several hours and can be played with really cool parents. The retail price is $25 for the starter pack with 460 answer cards and 90 question cards and $10 for each 100-card expansion pack. Buy online from the...
by yoursl | Nov 20, 2014 | Just For Fun, Sexual Discussion |
Brown bag speed dating, in which participants wear brown paper grocery bags over their heads during the speed dating event, has made its way from London to New York City. Loveflutter, a dating app that matches people based on personality criteria, is hosting the first of such speed dating events for 60 people in the Big Apple. Participants are charged $25 to attend the event, and the cost includes a brown paper grocery bag and a decorating kit with which to personalize the bags. The bags will have cut-outs for eyes, nose, and mouth so participants can breathe and talk. The idea behind this unusual form of speed dating is that participants get to know people as they are without physical appearances getting in the way. Participants will remove the bags at the end of the event to reveal their physical selves to other participants. Sources: ABC News and bigappled.com Sprout Pharmaceuticals, a Raleigh, North Carolina-based company, is locked in a battle with the Food and Drug Administration over the company’s drug Flibanserin. The latter wants more data on how Flibanserin interacts with other medications prior to approving the new drug. If approved, Flibanserin will be the country’s first prescription medication for the treatment of female sexual dysfunction. In contrast, there are 25 drugs on the market for the treatment of male sexual dysfunction. Sprout has been trying for three years to bring Flibanserin to market as a treatment for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD), in which a woman has no thoughts about sex and lacks desire for sex and is distressed...
by yoursl | Nov 6, 2014 | Sexual Discussion, Taboo Topics |
Fetlife.com bills itself as “a free social network for the BDSM and fetish community.” The site claims to have around 3,329,225 members. A young professional I met at a networking event suggested I sign up as a member to learn about the kink world while discovering sources and topics for future blog posts. After my car mechanic with no ties to the young networking professional suggested I sign up as well, I seriously considered the suggestion for a few weeks before checking the site out for myself. At sign up, I knew immediately that I have much to learn about human sexuality, the kink world, fetishes and taboos and fetlife users. I am approaching fetlife with an open mind. I just want to learn as much as I can about fetishes and taboos from an intellectual perspective without having to actually participate in a bondage boot camp or witness a sadomasochist show and tell. Fetlife has a dozen sexual orientation options to select from while creating a user profile. (Note: These terms will be printed in bold in this blog.) The commonly known choices include straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, unsure, and not applicable. Other choices in this category are not as commonly known by some people. Many of the terms were unknown to me, so I searched for definitions and included them below. Heteroflexible is defined by Word Spy as “a heterosexual person who is open to relationships with people of the same sex.” The...
by yoursl | Oct 23, 2014 | Dating/Relationships, Sexual Discussion |
Wouldn’t it be a fabulous world if we were all Stepford perfect? None of us would ever feel inadequate. We would not have moments of doubt or ridicule. Our relationships would be smooth and glossy, like a Tiffany lamp, not crackled and baroque like a made-in-grade-school mug. Snowflakes and flowers have the potential to be perfect, but not people. We are beautiful in our flaws and emotionally adept through our imperfections. The trick is finding someone who will love us through, and sometimes, in spite of our imperfections. I have more failed relationships than successful one, and my advice comes from personal experience and not from books or expert research. I am sharing what I have done wrong in relationships so that, perhaps, others can learn in an easier way what I learned the hard way. Stop being stubborn. There are moments when people must compromise. Each party in a relationship, be it an intimate one or a business one, needs to be able to reach an agreement with the other party. Don’t compromise on personal morals or values, but do take a two-hour road trip to your partner’s hometown to buy a doughnut at the county fair if it will make your partner happy. Communicate. I am guilty of believing people are mind-readers and will know what I need or want at any given moment. I recently learned to share my intent before asking my partner to join me for...
by yoursl | Oct 16, 2014 | Bedroom Fun, Dating/Relationships, Just For Fun, Sex and Literature, Sexual Discussion |
My collection of sexual health books rivals those of major metropolitan libraries. My residence is littered with these books and is a source of amusement for my friends and family, who peruse small piles of my books when they visit. I almost always have a book with me, and it is almost always a book about something sexual. (Side note: When I shop at my local bookstore, I sit down in the sexual health section, make a stack of books that look interesting, and then make my selections for purchase out of that pile. As I am doing this, I have noticed people avoid me and the aisle I am sitting in as if a plague were present instead of one woman on a quest. My advice for people who need a few moments of peace and quiet is to go sit in the sexual health aisle of a bookstore and enjoy a moment of solitude.) Rarely do I read a sexual health book I think every adult needs to read as well. I have just finished reading an absolute gem of a book called Men Are Pigs And That’s a Good Thing by Ron Sturgeon, who spent four years interviewing men and women for his book. Sturgeon took the techniques he used to build successful businesses and applied them to suggest ways to create long-lasting, sex-filled relationships for adults of all ages. His book is geared toward the heterosexual male-female relationship, but his suggestions for building intimacy can be used by anyone of any...
by yoursl | Oct 9, 2014 | Breast Cancer, Sexual Discussion, Women's Sexual Health |
Artwork used with permission from P.Ink The National Cancer Institute estimates there will be 232,670 new cases of breast cancer among women and 2,360 new cases of breast cancer among men in 2014, with an estimated 40,000 deaths among women and 430 deaths among men. This number has increased steadily since 2012, which is when I personally started keeping track of these numbers. Breast cancer treatment can include mastectomy, which is the total removal of one or both breasts. According to the Mayo Clinic, newer mastectomy techniques can preserve breast skin. Some women who undergo mastectomy choose to have breast reconstruction surgery, which can restore shape to a breast with the option to have a nipple implant performed during the reconstruction surgery. Breast reconstruction surgery can be done immediately after a mastectomy or in a separate surgery at a later date. According to the Mayo Clinic, newer mastectomy techniques can preserve breast skin. Cancer survivors who have undergone a mastectomy are left with scars from these surgeries. P.Ink is a non-profit organization that helps partner mastectomy patients with tattoo artists so that scars can be transformed into beautiful designs. Areola pigmentation professionals help survivors by restoring the circular pigmentation around reconstructed nipples using a tattoo technique so reconstructed breasts will have a more natural look. P.Ink Day’s inaugural event was held in 2013 at Saved Tattoo in New York City. At this event, ten tattoo artists helped ten breast...
