Females differ from one another in how their individual exterior genitals look and in how they orgasm. Anal stimulation, vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or a blend of two or even all three of these can create a female orgasm. Some women only orgasm through one of the three forms of stimulation. Some women have never experienced an orgasm, a condition called anorgasmia. Other women have the ability to have multiple orgasms in the same sexual encounter.
A woman named Savannah shared her experiences with clitoral stimulation and multiple orgasm during an interview to help unwrap the mystery of the female orgasm.
Savannah maintained her virginity until she was 18-years-old and out of high school. She found herself with opportunities to experiment sexually with men her own age and quickly discovered that sex made her feel beautiful when she did not consistently feel that way in her everyday life. Savannah’s third sex partner was her then roommate’s boyfriend, and this one-time encounter was when Savannah discovered she could have multiple orgasms.
Savannah points to this shining, yet not-so-shining, moment as a turning point in her individual sexuality. She remembers very vividly the feeling of this first multiple orgasm and how she withered and shook for a very long time afterwards. Her partner held her close, rubbed her back and delighted in her personal discovery.
After this encounter, Savannah explained that she began to develop increased sexual desires that lead to dozens of partners in a just a few years’ time, but that she felt bad about having been the other woman in a few of those sexual encounters. Savannah said she promised herself she would never knowingly have sex with or fool around with another person’s partner again and kept that promise until many years later when she became a married man’s girlfriend. Savannah said he lied about being divorced and when she found out the truth she dissolved the relationship.
A clitoral orgasm is “highly intense,” akin to a concentration of feeling that is isolated and continuous. Savannah said her clitoral orgasms last much longer than her vaginal orgasms, often by a half-hour to an hour. She tells me that her “clit continues to pulse” and flitter for up to an hour after she uses her vibrator, designed specifically for use on the clitoris, or has “incredible sex” with her boyfriend.
In a highly intense orgasm, Savannah said her “toes curl” and she cannot feel her fingers or her ears. She sometimes curls up into a ball and “gets lost” in the feeling that overcomes her after orgasm, which she describes as “euphoria.” During orgasm, Savannah said she often screams, very loudly, because she feels if she does not scream then she will simply burst with the overwhelming sensations happening all over her body during sex. She tells me that her boyfriend loves it when she orgasms, especially when she screams during orgasm.
The main function of the clitoris is to provide pleasure to its female owner. The clitoris contains 8,000 nerve endings, making it the richest nerve center of the female body and explaining why the clitoris is such a great provider of orgasms for women. In comparison, the penis has only 4,000 nerve endings.
The clitoris has a glans, a foreskin often called the clitoral hood and a shaft. It is no surprise the penis contains these same parts, just in a different portion, look and feel. The similarities between the clitoris and the penis are due to these two sexual organs originating from the same embryonic cells. At seven weeks in fetal development, the sex organs of a male and a female look identical. During subsequent fetal development, the cells of the sex organs are stimulated with hormones: male hormones called androgens create a penis while female hormones called estrogens create a clitoris.
There is more to the clitoris than what is just visible to the eye alone. The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone, with two legs that extend 3 inches or so into the vagina, which connects to the G-spot (named for German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg and commonly referred to by the abbreviation for its proper name the Gräfenberg spot). The G-spot is located on the upper vaginal wall and, when stimulated, can produce orgasms in some women.
Intense clitoral stimulation can cause the clitoris to expand with blood, engorging it to double or triple its normal size. This uncommon side effect, known as clitoral priaprism, is usually nothing to be alarmed by and will slowly resolve itself as the clitoris relaxes into its usual, non-stimulated size. If the engorgement does not resolve or if it becomes painful, the female should seek medical treatment to avoid any future circulatory problems in her genitalia.
It bears repeating that the female orgasm is unique from woman to woman. What works to create an orgasm for one woman may completely miss the mark for the next woman. Orgasm and desired sexual stimulation changes throughout a woman’s life as well. For example, she may really enjoy anal stimulation and even orgasm from that stimulation, but having a baby or experiencing menopause could cause her orgasms to shift and to originate from other forms of stimulation.
When a person sees newsstand magazines offering articles about “50 Great Orgasms” or “How to Find the G-Spot,” he or she should not take these articles to heart. The absolute best way to achieve an orgasm, for both men and women, is to explore and stimulate one’s own body through masturbation or self-play and to communicate honestly and openly with sexual partners.
Most importantly, stop worrying about physical appearances. Science has proven that when people are in the heat of the moment, they do not consciously register those worrisome wrinkles or those few extra pounds belonging to themselves or their partners. What they do register is the excitement and thrill, and maybe even orgasm, that results from a great sexual encounter.
Put on your favorite music, wear something you feel sexy in, and get your groove on tonight. Happy orgasm!!!
XOXO,
